What does your body language tell your co-workers? Your boss? Your clients?
Even if you say the perfect words in the perfect tone, if you arms are crossed across your chest and your eyes are narrowed all that perfection will be lost and the takeaway from the conversation could be one of defiance.
According to this article from Shine, whether misinterpreted for anger, annoyance or flirting there are seven common mistakes you should avoid.
- Tilting your head – A sign of listening that can be misinterpreted as one of submission or even flirting.
- Folding your hands on your lap – Hiding your hands under a conference table or desk, for example, signals untrustworthiness; a cue from ancient times, when men would reveal their palms to show they were unarmed.
- Crossing your legs – A sign of resistance.
- Excessive smiling – An indication that you lack gravitas and seriousness.
- Folding your arms in front of you – Translates to insecurity or defensiveness.
- Playing with or tugging at your hair, jewelry or clothes – Can signal distress or, again, be misinterpreted as flirting.
Are there others that should be added to this list?